LOVE AND RESPECT

What is it about relationships?

No matter how hard a brother try we always end up fighting the fact that women are just looking to change you. Growing up with a house full of women did help me understand them to a degree. Although love plays a part in wanting to make it right, I find it to be a bit lopsided that we have to be the ones to conform to all the little rules.

This issue has to be addressed; you wonder how we should go about doing it?
Well:
#1 Confront with some rules of your own, but dont be as unreasonable as she usually is.
#2 Take time to compromise her wishes by not giving up but giving in basically. This may sound strange, but this will work.
#3 Make sure you become attentive and distract her with just being a man that loves his woman, she enjoys a man that doesn't need to be told what to do.

Relationships can be complicated and at times inconceivable. They can be enlightened by laughing and talking and not thinking sex is the fixer of all confusion. When you begin to equate sex with love that's when it becomes a danger. What you build outside of the bedroom is what making love special.

So just remember to take time to learn someone before you think you found the right one.

HATERS IN YOUR FACE

                         There comes a time in your life where you have to consider what your future should look like. I have seen some people look into a crystal ball and strive for what they see while others reach goals that may have been set for them by others. But at the end of the day however you get there, just make sure you do.

                           There are things we use as motivation; our family, our friends and most of all our haters. See- sometimes your haters always look for you to fail and that motivates you to do better. While some people tell you what you want to hear, they are privately waiting for your demise. We live in a world that has so many angles. Their agenda is to have someone to talk about, someone to be able not to deal with their own failures.

                           



                         

DUBNATION - Failing or just in a funk?

   


The Golden State Warriors staring down the barrel of a 2 game losing streak but does not look to be in panic mode and I believe they have no reason to be. The beat down they took from the Denver Nuggets (29-25) was seen as a game that was caused by exhaustion. Then came the Oklahoma City Thunder (31-24) coming into Oakland led by Russel Westbrook was just a ass whooping with no excuse. Even Draymond found a way to get the hell out of there. He was ejected and didn't seem to be grieving about it.



I am a big fan and I will tell all that this is not a downfall of whats to come, but more about re-calibrating. At least their not the Cleveland Cavaliers those dudes got beat down by a lottery team. Lost the game by 20 after leading by 21 at point of the game.

It didn't help that the refs were making bad calls all over the place, They did not seem to care, this was a message to us all that this ref thing has to be re visited and something has to be done about this not so rare travisty.

TIME FOR A CHANGE

There comes a time when you have to be honest with your children. This is a cruel world for they young black young men/women. They have to work twice as hard to reach goals. It takes major motivation to process in the system where you always have to start on the back of the bus, but if you hold on, maybe just maybe one day you will be driving that bus. 



So now here we are progressing in the cruel world. But you have to always remember where you stand in the line. By no means am I saying to conform, but actually the opposite. It's very rewarding to be able to see what is coming instead of going in blind. 

One thing for sure they cannot take away your degrees, your knowledge of your right to be proud of who you are or where you come from.

EAGLES SWOOPS THE PATS AND BRADY

Yep, the Patriots has lost another Superbowl. The Eagles beat the Pats 41-33.

Ending the game with a Hail Mary from Tom Brady to Gronk that was heavily covered in the endzone while the entire world was holding their breath.

I will be the first person to say although I didn't watch it, it was great to see how it ended. No matter what you may think about Tom Brady he is lucky to have played in an era that the QB is treated like a piece of precious crystal vase.

The Eagles played with determination and when it mattered the most.

SO congrats to the Eagles in beating the Patriots!

PRISONER OF YOUR OWN MIND

One day I was having a conversation with someone and wanted an honest opinion about what they thought about race relations. And the funny part about this is that I know for a fact that he has issues with black folks. Though he somewhat is admittingly a racist I still wanted to hear why.



As the conversation carried on he began to rant about welfare and how this was ruining the fabric of the country, and made people lazy and used this as the excuse on why immigrants come here and get businesses.

FACT: The difference between blacks and whites on welfare is neck extremely close. So next time someone tries to say black folk is dominating the system, tell them to research their information before making assumptions.  CLICK HERE FOR STATS

This conversation had gotten heated for a moment and then he reverted by blaming Obama for the failures of the white people that had become dependent on the system, but the fact is this has been statistically true wayyyyy before Obama had become President. That's the racism coming out as usual.

Its unusual to think that people would be able to live in a world where we don't see racism. Being judged by the color of your skin and not appreciating what we ALL have to offer. See- when we maintain a status we as black folk will always no matter our status will always be the poor ghetto ass black people that has to home raising.

This is where you have to stop thinking about how people think about you and learn to love who you are and keep pushing to be better. Never allow anyone to detour you from your goals.

I went to the doctor one day and expressed some concerns about not being able to do enough to help my daughter get through school and her only solution was to take her out and send her to some JC.
It was clear to me that she didnt care, she just didn't want to see a young black woman being educated and possibilities of being more educated than one of the counterparts. This is something that you will run across daily. Wanting young black men/women taking to lower of higher learning while they fill these 4 year universities with their own.

THE N WORD

The first time I was called the N word I reacted in a way that i shouldn't have.

My mother explained to me how important it was to remember my value, and never allow someone else

to define me with words. This was a way for them to control the minds by making us believe we are

something they wanted us to be. The only way that works is when you allow them in your mental.

I remember like it was yesterday. I walked into a school where I was in the G.A.T. E. Program.


This program was for the gifted. Needless to say not many people were there with my complexion.

While walking through the hallway with a teacher and a student guide, a group of kids were walking in
our direction one said “here comes another NIgger” I blacked out and assaulted the kid and was
arrested.

I was hearing my mother’s voice telling me that I needed to realize that she didn't name me that.

The importance of that was to understand  the undermining and and pinning us down with the slave

mentality will always be their mission. Have you ever sat down and read about where you come from?
If you haven’t- you should. There is so much information that is at the fingertips.
There is a time in your life when it will be important to understand the intricacies of your culture.

Being called a name that was given to us as slaves has found its way in out language.

Yes I am guilty of using it myself, but if I were forced to explain the difference it would be a simple result.

See when we started using it in songs, and in comedy etc. It softened the blow when others wanted
it to impact us in a negative way. The end result still needs work but hey- all things worth fighting for
comes with hard work.